Recognising your insignificance can be an act of compassion, not only to others, but also to yourself. — What I bring you today is a bit out of my comfort zone as a blogger: it’s a piece of common knowledge, not at all groundbreaking or unpopular. Nonetheless, despite how common it is, we tend to forget it from time to time. I’m here to remind you about it. …

This isn’t an “angry” post. I’m just confused. If you’re a white woman, feel free to help me understand it. — Here in Ireland, I’ve had good female friends of ALMOST every race: Black, fellow Latinas, Middle-Eastern, Indian, Asian. All good experiences, with varying levels of proximity, but no complaints and no frustration. There are some I’ve lost touch with over the years, and some I’m still talking to, but there…

Here’s the summary of a lifelong journey to recover what was taken away from me — IMPORTANT: this article is written from a secular perspective. I do in fact deal with spirituality, but I believe this particular topic doesn’t need to discriminate against atheists and sceptics, as they too can fall victim to narcissists. Read it with that in mind. All narcissists are controlling — I…

If it sounds simplistic… It is. Watch out fot it. — If you have ever lived with a pathological narcissist (or even more than one), this will sound familiar: sometimes, they act very controlling about unimportant things. You’re left puzzled and confused, wondering WHY these things are apparently so sacred to the narcissist if they don’t seem to have a connection…

Stop. Just stop already. — Look, I am not going to bash Christianity — I have nothing against it. (This is, arguably, the strongest reason why I’m not a Neopagan. Or “pagan” with capital P like they call themselves). …

Read on for all other elements’ challenges and talents. — As always, if I’m bringing you Astrology content, it’s an opinion piece. I’m speaking from experience, not just theory. If you’re looking for conventional knowledge, look elsewhere, you won’t find that in my blog. Here’s a second warning, always worth including: if you can’t tell the difference between “criticism” and…

And it has nothing to do with forgiving. — We struggle with belonging, don’t we? It’s a very common complaint I hear in support groups where we, as victims of emotional neglect in childhood, hang out. We feel like outsiders in the world, because naturally, we were outsiders in our own families. Some are scapegoated, other become “golden children”…

It’s “fine” to be abusive if you can prove you aren’t powerful. The underdog gets unlimited free passes to do as they please, with zero accountability. — I don’t always comment on trending topics. Today I felt like it, not just because it’s trending, but also because they are topics that gave me a dejavu. My life has a theme, and it seems to repeat nonstop: I’m always put in the position of “judge” in a dispute…

Think about it: if narcissism is excused and enabled in our society, perhaps it’s because it fits in. — I’m both a survivor of narcissistic abuse (diagnosed family members) and a well-travelled person who married abroad. Add to it the fact my family of origin is also made of recent immigrants who never fully adapted. …