A second interpretation of your comment here will probably be poorly received - which is why I'm putting it in second place and not first, in case the first suffices and I'm indeed correct in giving you grace - but it's necessary to point out nonetheless:
Autistic or not, there is a possibility (I'm not accusing you of anything, it's just a conjecture) that you're coming from a place of fear (of the world) and sliiiiight condescension (against me). I could be wrong, of course, and I'm not married to that hypothesis; but I know better than to keep it to myself, considering the kind of person who usually comes here from reddit.
Some people choose to interpret non-conformity as neurodiversity regardless of context because its comfortable and "safe" fir them to turn a blind eye to social inequalities, social injustice, and collective historical accountability. Indeed it's very comfortable and requires little effort in empathy and compassion when you assume your culture is the default and should dictate what it means to be typical or atypical; your western industrial "white person" worldview is the default, etc. You know... there's more to social cues than nature. A lot of it is nurture. Each culture will have their own set of social cues, because ultimately they're subjective, not a 2+2=4 sort of thing. If I were not a foreigner where I live, maybe you could disregard diversity of culture and focus only on how my brain works, but I find it at least "amusing" that, having read some of my posts - even, mind you, old ones - you have not come across anything, anything at all, not even a tiny commentary, on the topic of racism and xenophobia. Ironic, because it's one of my recurring topics here, but sure, you "didn't notice" it even in my post about Western Buddhism which you clearly read. As if the only thing that could possibly affect my experience of social integration in whichever group - other women included - was individual to me ("brain wiring") and had zero relation to overarching "big picture" problems that people in positions of more privilege than I feel a bit too fragile ton admit, let alone address.
It's very, very amusing.
This could probably also connect to your dismissal of esotericism as, well, "esotericism" (like "oh, it's just a quirk, haha, unimportant, inferior, pathetic"). I wonder if you'd say the same in case I was Christian. Statistically, spiritual practices deemed "esoteric" originate in places of the world that have long been exploited by white colonisers. Today they're cool (but as you covertly pointed out, only as a social quirk kind of thing, only as long as equality of status to "whiter" religions isn't being considered), whereas in the past people got ostracised for practising them. I don't cabe which religion is right or whatever, I literally do not care what people choose to believe or not. The only thing I care about is justice for all. If one religion is valid, so should all others. But what we have in the world is a double standard. And sure, you can brush it off as just me being ND because maybe you fear the world, maybe you're clutching your pearls and thinking to yourself "oh no, poor girl Lucy, she is unable to perceive how the world will retaliate against the taboos she is talking about because of her brain wiring" since surely the only reason WHY I tread on dangerous territory is I don't see the danger (?) Excuse me? No. I beg to differ. I don't WANT to eventually become one more sheep who conforms. I want to clash. I want to bring about a better world. I am not afraid to put my safety and comfort on the line for that. Neuro diversity comes second to that. If neurotypical people are really so clueless and really so happy with the status quo, well, tough, they'll have to open their eyes sooner or later. I don't give them as much power. I don't feel sorry for myself. I want to address the elephants other women are perhaps too brainwashed by the patriarchy into being "peace keepers and helpless little delicate ladies" to confront. So, in the end, maybe THIS IS WHY they don't want me around. It woud even make sense with why I get on with children (who haven't yet become the people-pleasers that older women gaslight them into becoming) and old ladies (who are approaching the end of life anyway so they no longer feel so cornered into conformity to this utterly ridiculous and artificial patriarchal world). In that case, it's mutual. I despise the weak who wave a white flag before even trying to do what is right. This is, of course, just a hypothesis. But since we're jumping to conclusions, why not consider this one too.
BY the way, speaking about the patriarchy, yes it still exists worldwide - including in places where we pretend to be more civilised and advanced, like here in Europe. So, who knows, this could be another big picture problem that a lot of people are to afraid to touch with a 6 feet pole, but I'm not like that. Maybe the REAL feminists are and have always been few and far between, because its become cool and hip to say "I'm a feminist", yeah but when push comes to shove, all the cowards actually ostracise those who try to do the job.
