Finding a spiritual blogger who doesn’t have (or fit the criteria for) a cluster B disorder is like finding a needle in a haystack.
There. I said it.
This includes myself, of course. I keep relating to BPD criteria, so who knows? I’m not sure if I’ll ever get diagnosed, because all I can see when I look around in both mental health and spiritual communities is fellow people with serious personality problems who are overestimating how functional they REALLY are — a lot of whom probably will never admit, but have these problems nonetheless.
And no, I neither have the time or the financial resources at this stage of my life to pursue another Academic qualification. Not even for one I WAS interested in (music), let alone one life seems to be forcing me to go after (mental health).
I’ll just wait and see if I can finally find someone in either of these 2 fields of knowledge who has good mental health. It hasn’t happened yet, but hey, hope is a thing that never dies.
I know “mental health” and “spirituality”, as areas of knowledge, have little do to with each other. The only reason why I’m grouping them together here is they both deal with the invisible. I mean… It’s a lot easier to get physical health care from a professional who isn’t physically impaired themselves, isn’t it? That’s because physical medicine is usually something visible. Heal a wound, and that’s it, you can no longer see it. So, people tend to be more genuine (or at least, less delusional) in that field.
With the mental and the spiritual, however… *sigh* There’s more room for overestimating how well YOU are doing before you reach out to help others.
Don’t get me wrong! I’m not accusing anyone of being maliciously disingenuous. The charlatans definitely exist, but I’d risk saying they’re a minority. Instead, I’m addressing a problem invisible to ourselves. A lot of people fool themselves before fooling others. It’s no-one’s fault. It’s just unfortunate.
You can talk about “relatability” all you want, but you can’t deny the truth: someone who is unhealed has NOT YET found an answer to their own problem. So how can they pretend to help others find it? I mean, sure, noble intention, you go girl! (or boy, or insert pronoun here) — but unless intentions are followed-up with adequate preparedness, we’re all just wingless birds trying to help each other fly. It’s not gonna work. Sorry.
That’s it. That’s the article. I don’t always have answers or conjectures (despite my name, lol). Oracles are great for individual dilemmas, but not so much for anything collective — unless it’s super predictable, but social problems rarely are. In truth, with regards to healing our invisible problems, I think a lot of people are putting the cart before the horses. It’s great that we’re acknowledging we need healing, that’s totally a step 1; But at the same time, we should get out of delusion surrounding the tools we ACTUALLY have at the moment. Things can and probably will improve with time, but this could be delayed by collective delusion. The whole concept of mental health is quite new in the grand scheme of things — open any History book and you’ll find this reality check. Spirituality is much older, but the idea that we can individually pursue it outside of our social conditioning is quite new as well. “New” doesn’t equal “wrong”, on the contrary, it’s often right, but the new can be misguided or need adjusting.
There are times when all we can do is “complain”. For now, I’ll just hope that my complaint opens some people’s eyes for a productive end.
