If that is so, why is it that I only have this difficulty among *white* women? You may have missed that (if so, re-read the first paragraphs here) but I said every other group gets on with me. Could "skin colour" be coincidental? Maybe. But it's the one thing all the difficult women in my life have in common, hence why I grouped them that way. I'm glad your own experience is more positive, but please don't try to invalidate mine.