I’m not here to babysit grown adults.
This is for some readers. A very few, but very loud trolls. If you aren’t in the target public, don’t worry about it.
I’ll be brief, first because this is rather simple to address, and secondly because feeding off my energy is what these people want. They won’t have it.
I’m pinning this to my profile and linking to it from now on every time anyone behaves like a “karen” in my comment sections. I don’t care if it’s a first time visitor, a lurking “secret admirer” or someone who otherwise used to be nice. Nobody is automatically immune to my call outs. Did the shoe fit? PUT IT ON.
As the title says: I’m not here to babysit grown adults. If I were dealing with toddlers, this would be an entirely different story, but the people who read my blog are adults — although some don’t behave like it.
I am not interested in “proving myself” to anybody. ESPECIALLY NOT to random nobodies who come here with entitlement as if they were royalty. It’s always the nobodies, isn’t it? People who HAVE status, who HAVE something to show for their know-how and following and experience never give me any problem. Meanwhile, the losers (yes, losers) go on an ego trip and delude themselves that I will enable it. How funny, how ironic. How… projective.
“Losers? But Lucy, why be so rude”, maybe you’re thinking in case you’re just a bystander (aka in case you’re in the majority of my readers; a normal person; I appreciate you!). Yeah, I know, I’m not normally bitchy like this, and maybe on a first impression it looks like I’m reactive; nope, I’m chill. I’m simply speaking these people’s language. This minority of entitled folks who occasionally comment with “baits” only speak the language of bitchy. They don’t understand courtesy or maturity, unfortunately. They think niceties are an invitation to try and boss me around. So, I’m speaking their language: humiliating them in public to FINALLY drive home the point that my blog isn’t no-ones-land, it has an owner, it has rules, and I’m not impressed by their behaviour.
I’m referring to the people who come accusing me of being a bad person or [insert shameful thing here] because of an invalid reason. I’m not the kind of person who cares about criticism, if the criticism makes sense I’ll even reply saying it’s fair enough and I’m grateful for the new perspective. But the thing is, these people’s “criticism” does NOT make THE SLIGHTEST sense. Only in their fertile imagination, perhaps. They split hairs over a non-issue, then pretend they’re saying absolute truth. With what authority?! Huh? Tell me. What kind of authority do these people have in order to think they are the arbiters for what is valid or not? None. The answer is none. They’re bluffing, they’re trying to bait, they want my attention and energy and don’t know how to ask straightforward.
Similarly, I’m also talking about self-proclaimed narcissists or psychopaths or [insert diagnosis here]. Honey, my blog is not a mental health facility. I’m not getting paid and don’t have the required qualifications to help mentally ill people get better. Look for a doctor, which I am not. The articles about mental health here are exclusively about my own journey, and I publish them so that others can relate and feel less alone. You’re not entitled to my time and you’re definitely not entitled to draining me while you “use” me as a source of healing. No. I don’t care that in some countries (like the US) the health care system is so broken, this is not my problem, do I look like a politician to you? Exactly. I’m not. I understand that a lot of Americans look for alternatives due to their circumstances, but there’s no such thing as a free lunch. Sorry. What’s free in other countries is subsidised, it’s not the result of a magic spell where healthcare industries (including mental health) get to be free because everyone somehow volunteers and signs up to get nothing in return for their work. No. I don’t know what kind of wonderland you’re living in, but on planet Earth, EVERYBODY deserves space and boundaries- including people who blog about mental health. So take a hint.
I’m sick of replying to these occasional energy vampires, because they always make it look like silence from me would = my agreement. So, from now on, I’m just linking to this article. Just a link. And no further words. Do they want my attention? Well, now for a fleeting moment, they had it. And never again.
Grown adults KNOW what is true and what is not true. They KNOW what kind of arguments correspond to reality and what arguments are twisting it, exaggerating it, using strawmen and ad hominems. They don’t need lecturing or teaching. What they need is consequences.
The warning has been given.
