Stagnation: the hidden danger narcissists (and narcissist enablers!) don’t want you to know about.
Yes, I’m clickbaiting the shit out of this. My patience for the enablers’ bullshit is officially gone.
Frozen in time. THIS is the key piece of information I need you to take away from this article: narcissists are frozen in time. No, it’s not something we should ignore and “leave them at it”. It’s not something harmless like a quirk of theirs we shouldn’t bother addressing. It is a problem. A pressing issue which affects all of us in the grand scheme of things. And I’m absolutely DISGUSTED by the prevailing group-think at the moment where everyone keeps saying “narcissists can’t heal, narcissists can’t change”.
First of all, who the fuck are you to affirm that?
Second of all, why enable NPD so much? Are you guys seriously saying that after all the advancements we’ve made in medical science and mental health, after all the cures and treatments we have found and keep finding TO THIS DAY, the only condition we’re putting on an ivory tower and leaving untouched is NPD?
Honestly. Come on now. This reeks of blind conformity and fear.
Yes, fear. People are afraid to dig into this disorder because they’re afraid of what they might find out about everybody; About society at large. They’re afraid of having to entertain the hypothesis that narcissistic traits exist everywhere, whether or not one has the disorder — and this will inevitably bring them shame.
Well, to hell with that! Let the shame come. Let the scary thing reveal itself to us. Because if we don’t, write my words down, we’re all doomed.
Do you want humanity to succumb to fear? Do you want our own pride and inflated ego to be the end of us? DO YOU, MOTHERFUCKER?
Because that’s where we’re heading.
I’m sick of this shit. I’m not going to sugarcoat this one or keep a nonchalant tone of voice this time. There are times when we need to pick up the goddamn megaphone and scream until the world takes a hint.
Nothing is impossible to address. Nothing, other than reversing death, is beyond us. Ask any doctor. I dare you to find a doctor who is willing to say, “well, I stand defeated. I give up finding a way to address [insert health issue here]”. Go on. Find one. I’ll be waiting RIGHT HERE.
SO FUCKING WHAT if narcissists keep referring to their distant childhood memories (when NPD started taking hold, probably) as the only past worth remembering?
So what if they struggle with object constancy, or the act of growing and changing internally, or ignoring reality in favour of delusion, or [insert issues here]? So what? Huh? Tell me. Does THAT deserve a trophy for most supreme victim in the entire universe? Does it?!
Schizophrenics struggle with hallucinations that seem to them as real as anything else. People with dementia and other debilitating conditions struggle with memory, emotional regulation, and so many other crucial parts of our human toolbox for relating to each other. Autistic people struggle with making sense of essential bits of communication and sensory stimuli. People with eating disorders literally see a distorted image of themselves in the mirror. I could go on and on. Narcissists aren’t alone in having very real issues which “aren’t their fault” and make it super hard to live in society.
That does not fucking mean we should wave our white flags and say, oh well, nothing can be done here.
I won’t explain what I just said. If you didn’t get it, take a good look within to find the root of this denial you’re holding on to.
What I said needs saying. The more, the better.
Until next time.
